The other day I was just browsing and watching some true-life stories on Youtube when an Evan Carmichael video came up. It was about Skills that were hard to learn but would pay off forever if you did learn them. And I felt so enlightened after really listening to the information in the video. It wasn't anything new but when it came together in one presentation made a whole lot of sense to me and I thought I would share it with you from my perspective.
Skill #1. Speaking up
We should get comfortable with public speaking, this is a tough one because statistics have proven that people fear public speaking more than death.
Yes, you read that right.
I for one have gotten better at public speaking, especially during college years and the workplace when I had to do presentations and now it's very much apart of my everyday life. (Still not the best at it)
Skill #2. Being Honest With Yourself
If you are an entrepreneur there is a good chance that you have lied to yourself, especially during the start-up phase of your business.
This is better, faster or cheaper - but is it really?
People model whatever is already successful.
With that, we just have to be honest about what we know and what we don't know but try to know our business better than anybody else.
Skill #3. Confidence
I learned the power of confidence when I just started working, I knew the information well but I questioned myself every step of the way.
This would show up when a supervisor or the director asked me questions.
I fumbled over my words and skipping through source documents to be sure, even though I knew the information first hand but I was not confident and it showed.
This became even clearer to me when the General Manager would share incorrect information in my presents and because he spoke with such confidence even I almost believed him even though I knew the information was incorrect.
It sounds crazy but its true, confidence is a major skill to acquire. It has improved how people react to me in the workplace because now I am confident that I can find the solution to problems.
Skill #4. Listening
People like it when they are not only heard but listened to.
And I can think of many times when I felt like I wasn't being listened to and I do my best to not let people I correspond with feel that way.
Good listeners make Good leaders and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting, the skill to hold your opinion to yourself until everyone else in the room has spoken gives two results.
Firstly, it gives everyone the feeling that they have been heard and contributed.
Secondly, you get the benefit of hearing what everyone else has to say and think before you share your own.
Avoid nodding in agreement or disagreement but instead, ask questions so you can have a better understanding of why they have that point of view.
In all honesty, It is easier said than done.
Skill#5 Time Management
This is a major one for me because there are so many things that we spend time on that do not add value to our lives and suppress our creativity.
It's like we are dumbing down our own ideas because we are always consuming ideas of others. Its one of the reasons I started blogging because it a creative avenue for me and I can share it with other people.
Reading, writing, arts, etc are still very important. We are busier than every other generation, but are we efficient?
Are we busy being our best selves?
Let's think about it for a moment how much time do we spend doing things we are passionate about compared to task and/or things we have to do to survive.
Time is precious, valuable, and irreplaceable and needs to be used more wisely.
Skill#6 Stop Whining
We complain, fuss, and criticize.
"I can't do this", "I always do that"," but they never"... "why don't you do this or that?" and the list goes on.
Have a day when we don't complain or fuss about what is not going right and just appreciate what we do have.
Skill#7 Being Present
Going back to the past can be depressing because you are re-hashing things that happened to you and uprooting the feelings that come with it.
And if you are living in the future you are going to be anxious and anticipating what's to come.
Being in the present moment will give you control because its what is happening now and it makes you happier. It doesn't matter what has happened to you.
In fact, some of the people that have had the worst things happened to them are some of the happiest and grateful people in the world. It comes down to your mindset, thoughts, and attitude - which we are in total control of.
It will make you happier to focus on the present because you can savor the moment, it's like having a meal. When you having a meal you are focusing on the taste, smell, and the people you are sharing that moment with.
You are not thinking of the past or the future but only that moment and appreciating it.
Showing up, doing, and pushing yourself even when you don't feel like it, is how you become consistent.
Taking the unfavourable outcomes and using them as a stepping stone to continue on your journey, it takes time, even if you think nothing is happening.
Continue being consistent - It counts.
Skill #9. Getting Enough Sleep
I for one get really cranky and annoyed easily when I am tired. Simply put - I can not be my best self if I am tired.
Therefore, you have to say No to things you may want to do in order to get enough rest to do the things that are important.
Take for example your group of friends want to have a fun night out and the idea excites you.
But if you go you won't get enough sleep for your meeting in the morning.
Its not easy but you have to get used to saying no sometimes.
Skill #10. Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
It is what allows us to connect with one another and bond.
It is very valuable to the human species and women tend to access it more effortlessly - like when we cry.
Empathy is the engine that power us, civilizes us, and connect our hearts.
These ten skills I believe are important in personal development. If you have not started to learn these skills, then start today or if you have started already like myself continue to work on them. Confidence, Consistency and Empathy were skills that resonated with me, share which ones stood out for you in the comments.
Remember - You got this!